As a photographer but also as an individual, I totally get that the desire for perfect images often comes from our longing to present ourselves in the best possible light. Consequently it is natural to feel uneasy when photographs may sometimes reveal what we don’t like about ourselves.

However, let’s be honest—perfection is an illusion, and acceptance of our selves is far more rewarding.

Self-acceptance is the cornerstone of a fulfilling life. When we accept who we are, we begin to appreciate the beauty in our “imperfections”, rather than constantly measuring ourselves against unrealistic beauty standards or sometimes even just against a friend that has what we want. Wrinkles, love handles, scars, a bigger nose, short legs, … are not simply defects; they are you, marks of a life well-lived, each telling a story and reflecting the experiences that have shaped us into who we are today. It is important to recognize that our self-criticism is often overly exaggerated. Those personal features we often perceive as weaknesses are not deficiencies at all, but rather characteristics that contribute to our individuality.

We unfortunately often see ourselves through a much more critical lens than we see others when it comes to aspects that we consider negative. But every person carries his or her own set of “imperfections,” and it is this diversity that makes humanity unique. By acknowledging and celebrating these differences, we can develop a deeper appreciation for ourselves and also for others, building a more inclusive environment where everyone feels valued. Practising and living self-acceptance not only improves our own well-being, but also encourages those around us to do the same. We can help shift the narrative that beauty lies solely in outward appearances, emphasizing instead that true beauty radiates from within.

Self-acceptance is about recognition of our personal stories, taking pride in our identities, and living according to our values. This journey is worthwhile—not just for our own growth, but for the benefit of the community around us, for your kids, your family, your friends, … In a world that frequently presents a one-sided image of beauty, we have the power to be the change we wish to see, teaching others the importance of self-love through our own example.

A photo shoot can be a fun experience, allowing you to step closer to making peace with your body. Often we have to go step by step down this pathway of self-acceptance, as it’s not an all or nothing process, its not about chasing an unachievable ideal but rather enjoying your very own individuality in each moment as much as possible. Those laugh lines, curves, and the marks of your life’s journey are not weaknesses; they are the unique qualities that define you.

When you allow yourself to be seen as you are, you begin to appreciate your own story. Self-acceptance becomes the most powerful filter, supporting the flowering of your natural beauty.

Together, we can explore the charm of being “imperfect,” as it is precisely these qualities that make you – you. So, let’s get ready to capture the essence of who you are in that moment—smile, and let’s walk on this beautiful journey together!

I’ve put together a selection of simple exercises that can help you on your journey toward enhanced self-acceptance. Engaging in these activities, particularly in the moments leading up to your shoot, can be beneficial.

They encourage reflection and self-awareness, allowing you to create a more positive self-image. If you feel inclined, I highly recommend dedicating some time to these exercises; they can serve as a valuable tool in building your confidence in general but also preparing you mentally for the experience ahead.

A Loving Message
Let’s start with a small, simple task with a big impact. Use a pen and paper and write a loving message to yourself. This could be a Post-it note that you stick to the side of your computer screen or a small note on your mirror.

The Mirror Exercise
Stand in front of a mirror. Look deeply into your eyes and consciously say to yourself: “I love you and respect you.” Say it 10 times in a row, making sure not to blink. If you blink, start again. Do this exercise several times a day until it becomes easy for you.

Outburst Of Courage
Sometimes it takes courage to accept yourself. In a world where we constantly compare ourselves, where we always want to be better than others, it takes courage to accept yourself.

So go ahead: Have the courage to accept yourself as you are! Because you are lovable.

Formulate positive statements about yourself and repeat them regularly.

A few Examples:

“I am good the way I am”

“I like myself”

“I am lovable”

“I am beautiful”

Or do something even braver, stand at your window or go out into nature and repeatedly shout out loud: “I am great,” “I love myself,” or what ever positive affirmation suits you more.

Gratitude Journal
Write down at least three things you’re grateful for each day. These can be small or big things, experiences, qualities, or situations.
This will help you focus on the positive aspects of your life and yourself.
Regular gratitude journaling helps you develop a positive attitude to promote self-acceptance.

Pro-Self-Esteem
Recognize that it’s okay to be imperfect. Each of us has flaws—that’s what makes us human. It’s your rough edges that make you the person you are. They’re a part of you and have just as much right to exist as your strengths.
Use a piece of paper and a pen and write down a weakness you see in yourself that you don’t like. Or a mistake you’ve made that you judge yourself for.

Then think about why it’s okay and very human to have made that mistake. You’ll see, you’ll immediately feel a little more comfortable with it.

Be patient with yourself and give yourself time to develop self-acceptance.